Offline Dating: Submit!

Not the sexy way.

There’s been a huge influx of new subscribers this week and I’m absolutely thrilled about it. But the truth is, it’s a lot of subscribing and not so much submitting personals. And I get it - it is extremely daunting to put yourself out there. It’s a lot less intimidating to just respond to whoever catches your eye. But this experiment only works if we’re all brave. So in lieu of personals today, a guide to submitting your own.

First, make sure you have the basics: where you live, your age, gender and the gender(s) you’d like to date, and (and this is the most often forgotten aspect!), a way to contact you. This should not be your phone number - guys, this is going on the internet. I personally recommend really leaning into the old-school personals of it all and setting up an anonymous email just for this, but regular emails and social media handles are fine as well.

Beyond that, get specific. What do you like? What do you want? How can you express both those things in a way that leads to the person you want finding you? Because I am an irrepressible lover of romantic comedies, I wrote you some examples from When Harry Met Sally…, the greatest rom com of all time.

30ishM, NYC. Dark humor, iconic sweater collection. Looking for a woman to duet to musical theater songs at karaoke, walk through the Met, or just someone I can make meow. Respond to harry@emptynycloft.com.

30ishF, NYC. Bubbly with an edge. Turn-ons: cuddling, airport make outs, and a really good pastrami sandwich. Looking for a man who can make me laugh and won’t get uptight about my days of the week underwear collection. Is that you? Respond to sally@auldlanesyne.com.

So let’s be brave, let’s get weird, let’s submit our own personals. See you next week!